Just do what you want!

A gentle reminder that YOU are in charge of your OWN life

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Inspired by recent events in my own life, I have been reminded (yet again) how being in the company of certain people can make you feel like you are failing or not “doing life” properly.

We can do so much work on ourselves and try hard to build our self-esteem, only to have it come crashing down in a matter of hours. That is how delicate these things can be and how strong and powerful the old deeply ingrained limiting beliefs are.

Considering how much work it takes to re-build our self-esteem and create new, healthy beliefs and a TRUE sense of self, we must remember to treat ourselves with kindness and compassion and confidently guard our emotional wellbeing.

It is not always easy to carve out a life for yourself that is right for you and that perhaps other people don’t fully understand or appreciate, but it is essential that you create a life that suits you! We are not here to live a life that others “approve” of, or one that we feel we are “supposed” to have.

The Social Media Lie

One of the things that makes this so hard to do is that damn thing called social media! Whilst I can fully appreciate it has its uses, as you might have guessed, I am not a fan. In fact, I have fallen so out of love that I recently took steps to come off of it all together.

Now, I’m not suggesting you do the same because then I would be telling you how to live YOUR life. I’m simply mentioning it as a reminder to not compare yourself to everyone’s “best bits” of their lives. A person’s Instagram account is simply NOT a true representation of their life… of-course it isn’t… who in their right mind would want to post a picture of their child having a tantrum, or the house looking like a pigsty… Nobody!

So, just remember that behind every “perfect” Instagram photo or Facebook story, is a crying child, a huge mound of laundry or a whole bunch of clutter. Give yourself a break and remember that what you are seeing is only a fraction of the story. Real life is messy… real life is not perfect, real life keeps moving and real life is a beautiful disaster!

Some Tough Love!

YOU are in charge of your life, your choices, your decisions… YOU are the one who can try things, change things, leave a bad situation, distance yourself from toxic people. You CAN do whatever it is you need or want to do to make your life the way that is right for you.

Don’t be afraid of other people’s beliefs or opinions, they belong to them NOT you. You don’t have to take on other people’s ideals. Trust your instincts, search inside for your own values, beliefs and ideas and make them happen. You CAN do it! You MUST do it!

You’ve got this! 💛

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